massage when you're pregnant

Q. My wife is pregnant and I’d like to get her a spa gift certificate. Can she still do most of the spa services?

A. Yes. Most spa services are fine while you’re pregnant and some, like massage, are so wonderful they are often recommended by doctors. Dr. Manny Alvarez of Fox News posted to his blog a list of “Pregnant at the Spa Do’s and Don’ts”. I saved that list for future reference and you have just given me a reason to use it. According to Dr. Alvarez there are only a few don’ts. Most of these involve services that would increase the body temperature too high. He suggests pregnant women not get body wraps that include heat, that they not use hot tubs (warm baths are just fine), that they avoid saunas. He states that tanning beds are terrible for you even if you are not pregnant so he suggests you use the advent of your pregnancy to stop using them. He further states that while the actual tanning bed is to be avoided spray tanning, especially organic spray tanning, is just fine. He does indicate that you should not take tanning pills. The only other precaution he suggests relates to aromatherapy. Some essential oils such as juniper should be avoided. Jasmine, spearmint, lavender and chamomile are fine and offer relaxation and stress release. I suggest you check with your doctor before you have an aromatherapy treatment. Making Dr. Manny’s list of dos are all the popular spa services. The doctor states that any waxing or even laser hair removal is no problem. Well shaped brows won’t hurt your baby. Nail treatments are definitely fine. Just like when you are not pregnant you should be sure the salon you go to adheres to proper sterilizing techniques. Facials treatments are another great service do enjoy while you are expecting. The only precaution here is to avoid Retin-A. Facials can be a great source of relaxation in addition to the benefits they can bring to the skin. Massage is an absolute yes. Dr. Alvarez goes so far as to say in his blog that he actually recommends it to almost all his patients. Many spas specialize in prenatal massage and Dr. Alvarez suggests massage every two weeks for his patients. As a final note, the doctor puts to bed the myth that you should not have your hair colored during pregnancy. He states that despite a lot of confusion hair dyes are fine. Hair dyes use to contain formaldehyde but for many years they have not. Your wife should enjoy her spa services and not be worried but as I always do, I’ll make the suggestion that she check with her doctor if she has concerns. While pregnant women experience a lot of body changes and can experience a little anxiety and stress as well. A day at the spa or even a routine of spa services like bi-weekly massage can help. Give this gift and you and your wife can both feel great about it.

Sleeping at the Spa

Q. I have a lot of trouble falling asleep. Will a massage help me or cause me to be more awake after?

A. Massage in general is relaxing but some elements of massage do increase circulation. There is a new trend in the spa industry catering to clients who suffer from insomnia or other sleep disorders. In these modern times most of us over fill our schedules and we often rob from our sleep time to add to our work time. In Europe and Asia many corporations allow their employees to take 15 - 20 minute power naps. Results show it increases afternoon productivity. The spa industry has jumped on board that concept and many spa services are being introduced that really do help with sleep issues. Even if you can’t find a spa that’s on board with this new idea you can use what they do offer in ways that will help you. First, let me fill you in about some new services that are specifically targeted to help induce better sleep. Spas use techniques that include the use of essential oils to help you relax. Most are a blend of chamomile and lavender. The scent from the oils stay with you even when you leave the spa and once relaxed you can go home and go right to bed and to sleep. Massage that is geared to help you sleep will concentrate on arms and legs, scalp and the face. The back is given a little less attention. Avoiding the trunk of the body helps keep the metabolizing effects of massage at a minimum. Many people have trouble sleeping due to leg pain or jumpiness or pain in the shoulder area. Massage of these parts directly before sleep can help. Massage of the scalp, head, shoulders and face is very relaxing and calming. When you add the essential oil element these services help a great deal. Jumping on board with the power nap trend many big city spas offer relaxation massage that cuts some of the massage time and instead offers the last 15 to 20 minutes for a power nap. The client is gently awakened after the nap time is over and allowed to sit in a peaceful waiting area, drink some juice or water and gradually wake up before leaving. My spa will soon offer what we will call the Night Cap, a relaxing massage given at the end of the day that will allow our clients to go home and get a great night’s sleep. We will also be offering the Cat Nap massage which will allow for the 15 or 20 minute power nap and recovery. If your spa of choice does not offer services like these you can create it yourself. You can opt for the last appointment of the day and request less time on your back with more time on your legs, arms, neck and face. If they don’t have essential oil bring your own. You can give yourself a power nap service too, after your massage take a 15 minute power nap in you’re warmed up car. Just be sure you are in a safe area to run your car so you won’t risk carbon dioxide issues. You can also bring home some great essential oil. We sell it at our spa and it’s very popular. Then you can have your husband or wife or one of your children give you a simple relaxing massage to the feet, hands and face and then slide off to sleep. Return the favor the next night, it’s Christmas after all... the season of giving.

Men at the Spa

Q. I would love for my husband to have the same great spa experience I have. He thinks men don’t go to the spa, can you help me let him know they do. I see men there all the time when I go.

A. A growing number of men go to the spa, with and without their wives or girlfriends. According to the new statistics published from the International Spa Association men now make up nearly one third of all spa goers. In my spa I see the number of men growing every year. They don’t just come in for massage anymore either. Men are enjoying the full range of spa services; massage, facials, pedicures, manicures, and body waxing. Many times men will visit with the women in their lives first but once they have that initial visit, the stigma is gone and they are hooked. What man does not love to have his back massaged or his feet rubbed? Feeling good and looking great are not experiences limited to women. Once men know that they are welcome at the spa and realize that other men visit the spa they are usually thrilled to be there. Massage remains the most popular service purchased for men and it’s a great first spa service experience. If you buy a couple’s massage for your man or a Holiday Spa Package for two he will be more at ease during his first visit. Plus, the added benefit of a couple’s package is that you get to enjoy the spa too! It’s a win/win and a great time to buy. Most spas, including mine, have all the popular services on sale for holiday gift giving!

What is Shiatsu Massage

Q. I am interested in getting a massage and I found a listing for shiatsu massage. What is Shiatsu massage?

A. Shiatsu is a form of massage developed from the ancient style of East Asian massage. Shi literally means finger and atsu means pressure. Similar to acupuncture shiatsu practioners work with the 361 points along the 12 meridians of the body as described in eastern medicine. Shiatsu is comparable to the very trendy modalities of massage called yoga massage or assisted yoga. The Oprah magazine and The Today Show both have recently highlighted these massage trends. Shiatsu is comparable to both of these popular massage trends. In our spa the client lies dressed in loose comfortable clothes on a futon on the floor. The practioner will use her hands, fingers, elbows, knees and feet during the massage. The techniques include gentle stretching, yoga postures, rocking and rotation movements, percussion and vibrations. The client does not need to know or be able to do yoga. Even clients with a limited range of motion can have and benefit from shiatsu massage. The treatment is usually 90 minutes long. As with many massage modalities this type of massage is not intended as a replacement for medical care but it can enhance the body’s own healing capabilities. Shiatsu can help with relaxation, stress relief, relief from tension and anxiety, increase of blood flow, ease feelings of depression, and much more. If you are looking for a massage experience that is unique and different I would highly recommend you try Shiatsu.

Paraffin hand dips... for men?

Q. My husband and I have a spa package together. One of the services we are receiving is a paraffin hand treatment. What is that exactly and will my husband think it’s not intended for men?

A. I am really not sure what your husband will “think” about the treatment because I am not sure how it will be presented in the spa you are going to. He should not hesitate to have the treatment because it is wonderful for both of you. In my spa it’s not presented in a way that would make men feel uncomfortable. There are many variations in spa paraffin treatments but here are the basics. Paraffin wax is a colorless wax that can be melted and warmed to be used in treatments. Paraffin can absorb and retain great amounts of heat. The wax is applied to a body part, the most common being hands or feet, by dipping or brushing on. Once the wax solidifies the heat from the wax is transferred to the part of the body that’s been dipped. Usually several layers of wax are applied and then a plastic bag or plastic wrap is applied to the area to hold the heat in and make it easy to remove after it’s cooled. Sometimes the wax is infused with aromatic essential oils to further enhance the treatment options. I love using paraffin in treatment because it’s a method that works and it’s a pleasant and enjoyable experience. Paraffin treatment can enhance the look of hands and feet or any body part. The heat works to open the skin pores and then penetrate deep into the tissue. It can help eliminate dry flaky skin and produce much smoother healthier skin. It improves blood circulation to the skin as well and thus improves skin tone. The heat makes it an outstanding treatment for sore aching joints. People with arthritis, osteoarthritis and bursitis love this treatment. It’s also very effective in relaxing tired, over worked hands and feet. Muscle relaxation occurs as the heat helps loosen stiff tight muscles. Many people experience better range of motion in the hands and fingers after a paraffin dip. Hands that have been constantly exposed to cold harsh weather as well as tired, sore, stiff or dry hands all benefit from this treatment. You should not have a paraffin treatment if you have open wounds, sores or fresh burn injuries. I personally use paraffin treatments for hands, feet, faces, and whole body wraps. As in your case, paraffin is often part of a spa treatment but it can be a stand alone treatment as well. In my spa you can also add it to any other service and it’s very inexpensive. You and your husband should relax and enjoy your spa package and look forward to the paraffin therapy. Have fun.

Nail Polilsh that lasts

Q. I heard about a new nail polish that will last for 14 days, is that for real?

A. Yes, there is a new technology in the market for super long lasting nail polish. It’s really a nail treatment and polish combined. Several companies are promoting a version of this treatment. The version I like the most is made by a company called Creative Nail Designs. They call their product Shellac for nails. It is a combination of gel and polish, but it goes on thin and smooth like a polish. You don’t use this product to lengthen the nail. It is available in colors and a French style pink and white combination. I like this company’s version best because it goes on just like polish, really does last a long time and stays shinny and smooth the entire time it’s on. It also comes off very easily and quickly when it’s time to remove the color. The science behind the product uses a monomer and a polymer, much like gel nails but it is free of formaldehyde, toluene or DBP and is hypo-allergenic. The company boasts that the product has 14 day wear time, zero dry time, is off in minutes, has a mirror finish, and does not chip or smudge. That is the hype; I personally found all of it to be very accurate except the wear time. For some people 14 days is realistic. Others, who are harder on their nails, should expect about 10 days... still a really long time for polish to last and stay looking great! It is not available for home application and must be put on by a trained professional. I love this new product. I recommend it often. It’s especially great for brides who what perfect looking nails and who are often leaving right away for a honeymoon. The polish will last the whole time and stay picture perfect. This also makes it great for anyone going on vacation. At our spa we only charge an additional $10 for the shellac polish so it’s worth it for anyone who wants to keep that “fresh from the spa” look on their nails for 10 to 14 days! Its great when something new really does live up to the hype. This product is does.

End of Summer Skin

Q. Is there anything to know about the end of summer and skin? I always feel like mine is kind of dry at this time.

A. I have found that the most forgotten skincare element in the fall is sun protection. Just because the summer is over and the beach and pool are not on the list the sun is still out. Many young children have recess during school days between 10AM and 2PM, the worst time of day for the sun. Mornings may be cooler in the fall but the afternoon is often very sunny. Adults forget about sun protection once the summer is over too. It’s very important to remember. Dry skin is often the result of over exposure to the sun. If your summer was full of outside events your skin may be dehydrated. Take my first bit of advise and protect it from additional sun exposure then follow this routine for repair of overstressed summer skin: Cleanse twice a day with a mild cleanser, exfoliate at least once a day with a mild exfoliate, follow up with a great moisturizer after each cleansing, apply sun protection in the daytime. You can also help combat over stressed dry skin by avoiding really hot showers and opting instead for mild warm showers. If you work out at a gym or you have an active lifestyle be sure to wash your face as soon as possible after getting sweaty. Don’t forget to use a mild soap. Drink a lot of water and eat a diet high in fruits and veggies. If you can get in to see an esthetician for an end of summer facial your skin will really benefit. A good end of summer facial should include an advanced exfoliation and a treatment masque. Your professional should also recommend a home routine customized to your specific skin care needs. Take care of your skin, some damage once done can not be reversed and you are going to have to wear your skin every day of your life!

How to put on makeup

Q. I am never sure what the best way to put on my makeup is. Should I do the concealer first or after the base? Do I do the mascara last or the liner last?

A. There are many many ways to use makeup. Different looks will require different techniques but there is a very basic recipe for putting on the classic daytime look. Start with you concealer. Dot it on with the pad of your ring finger, not your pointer finger. The ring finger uses less pressure. Concentrate the concealer on the darkest areas of your face. These are usually the corners of your eyes, under your eyes and over any blemishes. If you are a woman beginning to show your age you may be getting deeper lines from the corners of your nose to the corners of your lips, and in the crook of your chin or between your eyes. You can use the concealer in these areas to lighten them as well. Lighter will make these areas seems less recessed or deep. Follow up with your foundation putting it only where your need it. Blend it out and over your face with a sponge makeup wedge, or a foundation brush. Follow with a very light dusting of powder. Next, apply your blush to the apples of your cheeks. Blend upward toward your cheekbones. Apply where you’d naturally blush. Your eyes will be next. Define your brows. Tweeze away stray hairs and define your brows with a few strokes of a brow pencil. Use feathery strokes and be sure your pencil is sharp. You can blend this out with a brow brush as well. Apply eye shadow over your entire eye area from the lash line to the brow bone. You can apply a shade darker to the hollow of your eye below the brow bone and right before the lid area. For nighttime you can bump up your eye color. If you use a lash curler you should use it at this point. Never use the curler after you have on your mascara that can cause your eyelashes to break off. If you use liner on your eyes this is the time to put it on. Apply a smooth even line at the base of your lid and into your lash line. Start at the outside of your eye and blend inward toward the inner corner. Apply one or two coats of mascara. Your lips will finish your face. If you use a lip liner apply it now and I always cover the entire lip area if I use a liner, that way when your lipstick wears off you are not left with lined naked lips. After the liner you can finish with a great lipstick or lip gloss. Don’t forget to bring some touch up items with you during the day. I suggest a concealer and a lip color at the minimum. Hope this helps.

Hair that shines!

Q. My hair just never looks shiny. I see some girls with great shine in their hair. How do I get that? I have blonde highlighted hair.
A. Super glossy hair is something anyone can achieve with the right help. Here are 5 ideas from Harris Publications, Inc. trade magazine for hair stylists. Keep your hair in good condition. Split ends and over processed color can zap you hair of its natural shine and leave it really dull. Use a high quality conditioner on your hair every shampoo and use a deep conditioner or hair masque at least once a week. If you’ve already done some damage to your hair and it’s looking frayed or over done visit a salon and get a professional conditioning treatment or a semi-permanent hair gloss treatment. The gloss color treatment won’t use any damaging peroxide and will actually help mend the split ends and will add shine. Second, try some at home styling products like shine drops or silicone sprays. The rule to remember with these great tools is a little goes a long, long way. Too much will leave your hair looking oily, but the right amount will add killer shine. The third rule to remember is also about product use. Go easy on the gel or hairspray. Too much will gum up your hair and leave it looking dull. Fourthly, avoid the heat. Blow dryers and flat irons can stress out over dry hair. Since you told me you do have color in your hair I strongly suggest you use a thermal protector product in your hair every time you blow dry and flat iron. These products are really effective at limiting the damage done by heat. Lastly, talk to your stylist about color. Be sure you are getting the color highlights that will add shine and reflect light. You may want to consider getting a clear gloss or a semi-permanent color. Both of these will seal you hair’s cuticle and add shine. For the readers who currently don’t have color in their hair but want shine I suggest some professional color. A boost of highlight adds brightness and shine to any style. Dark hair absorbs light but if you add a few panels of a lighter shade you’ll get reflection of light which adds shine. Love your dark color and don’t want any light color added? Dark hair really benefits from the clear gloss treatments. It can leave it looking like glass. Try these steps and you are sure to find the shine you are looking for.

Great hair for guys

Q. Last week you answered a question about fall styles for a student. My son is a college student and he wanted me to write in and ask you what’s hot this year for men’s hair?
A. That’s a fun question because I get asked far less about men and men’s styles. According to Fashion Trend’s Website young college age men are opting for fringe (or bangs) this season. All the runway shows have young men in a more masculine version of the ladies long front fringe (or long front bang). This look features a shorter back and side cut with front fringe. The length of these bangs varies so it’s an easy style to customize to a specific face shape. Most of the time the bangs are side swept. The other key item in men’s hair for the fall is texture. Cutting in texture and even embracing some wave are all popular. Using hair styling product properly will give these trendy men’s styles the right mix of texture and ease. Be sure to have your son ask his stylist to give him a quick lesson in how to use product (like gel, paste or spray) to best manage his hair texture and style. Another really popular look this year for men of all ages, young and not so young is the slick back. This year’s Ralph Lauren catalog shows nearly all its male models in this classic look. Its fun and upkeep and styling are very easy which makes it a good choice for a busy student, a top executive or just a man with an eye for style. Guys with straight hair will want their slick back style with more length on top while men with wavy or curly hair will want a shorter more textured version. This style can have a definite part line or can be nearly part-less with a slick back from the forehead and sides. Men are getting color more and more as well. Color helps bring out the look of layers and texture and adds some kick to any hair cut. All-over blonde for men is very popular this season but is usually best with a polished style like the slick back while color layering and tips are best for the fringe or textured styles. No matter what style your son chooses it’s great to see men take an interest in hair and fashion. In the past, the 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s men paid great attention to clothing, hair, fashion, even their hats. Its fun to see men involved in there appearance again. One only needs to check out the pop music stars or TV shows to see men are wearing hair again. The just buzz it off look is a thing of the past, unless you take it all the way off to bald and that is still hot.

Fall Hair

Q. My daughter and I always fight about her hair and the styles that she wants to wear when to school. What do you suggest for back to school hair styles?

A. I will assume since you are arguing with your daughter in the mornings about her hair that she is not a college student. Beyond that assumption I have no idea from your question how old your daughter is. Hair style is an age appropriate issue. I can only give you some broad advice and suggestions on this topic. Elementary students have energetic days. They also usually require some help getting ready in the mornings. Keeping her hair from restricting her ability to work at a desk with her head looking down, being able to actively play and looking fun are all considerations for young girls. Right now ponytails and pigtails are all the rage, even for older girls. These are great choices for younger girls as well. Make her hair fun with hair accessories. Barrettes, headbands and shorter bangs are all popular options as well. If your daughter has curly hair or hair that is difficult to brush in the mornings keep a spray bottle ready with a mixture of water and a small amount of hair conditioner. Spray the hair until it’s damp and combing or brushing will go smoothly. If you need to blow dry the style it will be easier and quicker if you shampoo the night before and simply use the spray to dampen it the next morning. Junior High girls are a different story. These tween girls want to look like the older girls but still need some help in the mornings and still have very active school days. Teach her how to do a pony tail with some height on top. It’s easy you just tease the top and crown then smooth the hair into a pony. Right now it’s popular to wear a thin headband and a ponytail. If you daughter is looking for a fun new hairstyle have her try layers and some bangs (or fringe as we call it in the biz). Girls in this age group are often very active and busy with after school activities as well. You’ll want to be sure whatever she wears can last through the long school day and post school activities. High School girls tend to know what’s in style and they all want to look like most of their friends. They fall into one of two categories. The girls who want to sleep as long as possible and get up and get ready fast, these gals may also be athletes who need quick easy hair or the girls who want to play and fuss and can be a bathroom hog. I suggest to make morning easier with a teenager you assume they will need a lot of time and space to get ready. A simple purchase of a vanity mirror and a place to do their hair in their room could save you a lot of morning stress. If your daughter is taking up a lot of time attempting new styles invest in a salon visit and let a stylist give her instruction on quick and easy ways to get “the look” she’s after. All hair styles at any age have three major considerations. The time it takes to style, the money it takes for upkeep, and the personality of the wearer. In the end, like so many things preparation ahead of time and the proper tools and supplies all make the job easier. Good Luck, have a great school year.

Summer Makeup - Part 2 Eyes

Q. What do you suggest for eye makeup for the summer?
A. One of the fun things about summer is how bright and sunny everything looks, including the face and skin. Everything is sun kissed and bright. To brighten up your eyes try this technique. Hughes of white, pale pink or pearl deflect the appearance of darkness around your eyes. A sheer brush of soft color like lavender or soft green will have the same effect. Always remember that a flat finish on your eyes will absorb light and a shimmer will reflect light. As you age, you’ll find that the shimmers are not always best because they do draw more attention to your fine lines. If you are a person worried about fine lines around your eyes try the shimmer color on the brow bone and use a flat color on your lids and near the laugh line area. During the day in the summer keep it simple. You can even use some bronzer on your brow bone and a simple brush of mascara on your lashes. Use waterproof if you’ll be in or near water or be out in the heat.
In the evening go for more vibrant color and use the fun shimmers on your entire eye if your eyes are young enough or opt for the lighter fun shimmers on your brown bone right under your eyebrow. Here’s another important eye makeup tip you’ll want to know for the summer. To avoid eye shadow creases start with a concealer or foundation on your lids. Dust your entire eye area with powder then use a powder eye shadow and avoid the cream shadow. Summer is about fun, so play with colors and shimmers and have fun!

Summer Makeup Tips - Part 1

Q. Last week you gave us some summertime hairstyles do you have tips for summertime makeup? I always feel like my makeup does not look right in the summer.
A. Great question and to answer it properly will take more than this week’s column. I could, in fact, write an entire book on subject but I will attempt to give you a break down of summer makeup tips over the next 3 weeks. I’ll dedicated this week to giving you tips about the face, next week I’ll elaborate on the eyes and finish with the lips the following week. The face is the most challenging element for summer. Summer changes your skin. The same foundation that worked in the winter won’t usually work in the summer. Foundation rule 101 your color should match your skin. It should blend and almost disappear. If it doesn’t you have the wrong color. You need to know your skin type. Are you Normal – Dry – Oily – Combination – or Sensitive? If you have some special needs like battling oil or dryness you can choose makeup that helps. Dewy moisture-rich foundations are great choices to help with dry skin, mineral or powder based combat oiliness and leaves your skin looking cool and non-greasy. People with sensitive skin types should prime their skin with an appropriate base or moisturizer providing a protective barrier before applying their foundation. It’s most important for these skin types to avoid any product containing alcohol or fragrance. Tinted moisturizers are a wonderful alternative to base foundations in the heat of summer. They are lighter and provide less coverage but most are infused with a protective SPF providing some sun protection. For the most professional application of foundation use a triangle sponge wedge. Apply your product in a thin layer and blend well around the jaw line. I am often asked about powder foundation vs. liquid and how to choose between them. If you want a dewy or sheer finish, choose liquid if you want a thinner finish that will help control shine and oil choose powder. Even if you choose liquid foundation you should have a great powder ready to use in the summer. Loose powder will give you more coverage than pressed, but pressed is easy to toss into a purse and use for mid day touch ups and to keep your face looking fresh in the summer heat. Here’s an extra tip, humidity can cause pressed powder compacts, eye shadows and blush to cake and clump so avoid storing them in the bathroom. The final element for the face is blush. I could do an entire column on the proper application of blush, and probably will at some future date, but the basics for summer are color choice and finish. The key’s to making blush look natural are matching your color to the natural way your face will flush and getting the blush in the proper location, the apples of your cheeks. You can lighten up your blush for the summer with just a kiss of color or you can opt for a great bronzer in place of a blush. If you choose to use a bronzer apply it to the areas of your face that the sun would hit, the nose, across the forehead, and high on the cheekbones. The most important summer tip is keep it simple and sheer and pack a few touch up items like compact powder and bronzer. Next week Summer Eyes.

Q. What hairstyles are popular this summer? I feel like I need something new.

A. Hairstyles are part of the fashion industry and are therefore always posting new trends. Last summer the hottest trends in hair were the pony tail and the precision (sharp edged and angled) cuts. This year the pony tail returns; big and fluffy with a top bump-up in the crown or sleek and tight to the head with a straight ponytail. The bob is still popular but the blunt, angular precision cut version has given way to a more easy-care version. This year the asymmetric bob is popular, with one side longer than the other. The bob also is going softer with more gradual lengths being cut in to add volume. The fringe or bangs are wispier and the whole look is more relaxed. Fringe (bangs) are hot hot hot this year. Long side swept bangs, short baby bangs, and wispy chopped fringe are all making the fashion cat walks. Layers are also popular on the model circuit this season. The look is layers and textures with a natural almost unstyled feel that’s free and full of movement. Pay attention to all the stars and shows this summer and you’ll also find that short hair is everywhere. There will always be long hair and thus the continued popularity of the pony tail but short hair is really in this summer. For awhile all the celebs were growing out their hair or opting for hair extensions to get instant length but not this summer. This summer all those long tresses are being cut short. You’ll see short hair on magazine covers and on many of your favorite actresses. Color trends have changed for this season as well. Wild hard edge color has given way to softer and more traditional color options. Blonde and golden brown highlights as well as soft strawberry reds are the trendy choices. The possible exception to this trend is platinum. This white blonde color is everywhere and is one of the most popular with summer short cuts. Remaining in style is the color combination of blonder or lighter on the top and darker or browner around the base line of the hair. Overall, the word for the summer of 2010 is, “easy”. The look is carefree and easy with softer edges, softer color and more free-form cuts. Personally, I think taking it easy for the summer is a great trend. I plan to embrace it.

Q. What is the best way to keep my child from getting sunburned?

A. The best way is to keep your child out of the sun but that is certainly not the most practical. If you can have your child avoid the harshest times of day, 10am to 4pm for direct sun exposure that is very beneficial. Use a broad spectrum, UV A and UV B protection, sunscreen daily. According to an article by Pediatrician Dr. Iannelli, M.D. children are still getting sunburned and suntanned with the primary cause not being that parents forget to put on sunscreen but that many don’t put it on correctly. It only takes a few minuets to put sunscreen on properly. It should be applied 30 minuets prior to sun exposure because it takes time for sunscreen to work. If you apply the protection prior to your child going outside you can do it before they even get dressed. Dr. Iannelli suggests you follow the same routine each time you apply sunscreen. You’ll develop a consistent way of application and won’t forget places on your child’s body and your child will get use the routine. Apply sunscreen generously. Most parents don’t apply enough. The amount of sunscreen that could fill up your child’s hand is usually enough. Larger children have larger hands so this is a good measure. Use whatever form of sunscreen you and your child tolerate best, lotion, gel, or spray. Start with one area of the body, like an arm, and apply a thick layer. Rub it in or spray it on completely before moving on the next area. Go from area to area and take special care not to miss spots like the back of the neck, ears, feet, the backs of arms and legs. Dr. Iannelli also suggests you save the face for last. Children tend to dislike this application the most and it’s best left for last. Use a sunscreen with at least SPF of 15 or 30 and re-apply every two hours. Be sure not to use sunscreen on babies under the age of 6 months. Many companies have sunscreens designed for kids. They are usually more hypoallergenic and easy on children’s sensitive skin. While you are taking care of the kids don’t forget about yourself. Have a fun summer!

Sunscreen and breakouts

Q. I have not been able to use sunscreen because it breaks me out. What do you suggest?

A. As I mentioned in last week’s column, I am often asked about how to navigate the summer and protect your skin. I am devoting several weeks of the column to these types of questions. One question I do get asked frequently is the question about skin that reacts to sunscreen. Many people have sensitivity to popular sun protection products. The most common allergic reaction to sunscreens is a reaction to papra-aminobenzoic acid or PABA. This is an active ingredient in many products. Fortunately, with the increased awareness of the dangers of over exposure to the sun the market place has responded and many choices of PABA free sunscreens are available. Preservatives, perfumes and alcohol can also provide problems for some people. The choices are not as vast when you are looking for preservative free products or fragrance free products but they are out there. You will most likely have to pay a little extra for these products but the benefit is worth the price. If you can’t find a product that works for you over the counter, ask your dermatologist to prescribe a sun protection cream for you. There are many options available. Wearing protective clothing and avoiding the worst times of day, 10am to 4pm are additional ways you can protect your skin. It’s worth repeating some of the tips I gave about sunscreens in last week’s column. Adults should use a sunscreen with an SPF of at least 15, with 30 being more preferable. If you have dry skin, opt for a cream or lotion. If you have oily skin, try a gel product or an oil free lotion. If you are going to have long exposure time in the sun or are out during the most dangerous times of day then consider using a complete sun block like zinc oxide. It will stop all sunlight from reaching your skin. Think about the white sun block you see on the nose and shoulders of lifeguards. Apply all your sun protection 30 mins. prior to going in the sun and reapply every 2 hours. If you are perspiring or are in the water, reapply more often. Children under the age of 6 months should not use sunscreens without the advice of their doctor. These young children need to be covered and kept out of the direct sun. Next week I am going to deal with a question about protecting children from the sun so look for this information then. Summer time is about having fun in the great outdoors. Take the time to protect yourself and your family and enjoy.

Q. This summer we are not taking a vacation away from home. I would like to use the spa as a way to enjoy some personal time instead. I think of it as an escape. What services would you consider fun for the summer?

A. This is a trend across the country, people staying home and taking mini escapes instead of spending money on a huge vacation. The practice has even been named…
stay-cations. Some people opt for one full spa day as a major event during their
stay-cation. Others like to enjoy multiple spa days over the course of the summer, making them feel like the spa is part of the fun summer at home experience. If you’re looking for a full spa day you should call the spa and ask what packages they have on their menu of services. Most have full and part day packages at special prices. If you don’t find a package that has all the bells and whistles you are looking for ask if you can customize a spa day package. Most large spas will accommodate you in this way. My personal preference would be to break up the services and enjoy many great days in the spa over the course of the summer months. Start your season off right with a great pedicure. Nothing says summer like a freshly painted set of toes in some new sandals. I’d next opt for a day in the salon getting some fun hair highlights. Sun-kissed pieces of blond mixed in to your current color will give you an instant lift. Don’t forget about sunless spray tanning. You’ll feel like you’ve been on vacation but your skin will thank you for avoiding the damaging UV rays of the beach. In your question you asked me what services I would consider fun for the summer. If I were making the choices I’d definitely go for a facial and even a back facial. Your skin can take a beating in the summer. Weekends at the ballpark, or out in the yard… a facial will help you keep a healthy glow. A back facial will get your ready to show off in your summer clothes and bathing suits. Speaking about weekends at the ballpark and doing yard work, massage is a great way to ease the stress of extra physical activity that goes along with longer days. You might like to opt for the more exotic and try a combo service of body exfoliation or polish and massage. You’ll feel smooth and relaxed. Finally, if you want to really glow this summer go for teeth whitening. Whatever services you choose you are smart to set aside the time early and get them scheduled and written in your calendar. Its easy if to get trapped at home doing busy work and the summer can fly by. Don’t let that happen, think about using the spa as an escape and a personal treat this year.

The spa is for dad's too!

Q. I always get my mom a spa gift card for Mother’s Day, what could I get my dad? Is a spa gift card good for a man too?

A. Yes it is! More and more men are discovering the joys of spa treatments. I suggest you put an actual service or spa treatment on the gift card and not just a card for a set dollar amount. Many men have no idea what to use the money for or what is available. Massage is still the most popular spa service for men. They usually feel comfortable with the treatment partly because they have an understanding of what they are getting. Many other spa treatments have names and associations that confuse non-spa goers, especially men. Some spas use very feminine terms for treatments like pedicures, manicures or facials. The smart spas are changing that up and re-naming services to target the male client. Usually these re-named services are variations of the tried and true spa treatments but with twists that make them more male friendly. How about a Hand and Foot Detailing for Men? It sounds like something they would do for their car. He might enjoy a Man-icure or a sports pedi. The facial is one service that has been associated with women so strongly that many men shy from trying it. The Man’s Skin Treatment, however does not sound like anything his wife would want to have. Just re-naming the service is not enough. The services should actually have some uniquely male oriented elements. In the pedicure for men you might see an emphasis on deep tissue massage of the feet and calf along with essential oils like lemon grass or sandalwood instead of lavender or rose. The Men’s Skin Treatment will concentrate on the more oily male skin type and deep poor cleaning with a great neck and shoulder massage as well. If you are confused by all the choices ask the spa if they have a spa package set up just for men. Many do. That will help you take the guess work out. If you just want to opt for one service that your dad will love, still go for the massage. It’s a great starting point. Once he feels comfortable in the spa he’ll be more willing to try some other options. If your dad is shy about the idea, get a couple’s massage that could include both he and your mom. This gift becomes an event they both look forward to, and will appreciate.

Foods that are kind to your skin

Q. Can some foods really make your skin look better?

A. Yes. Whole fresh foods are good for all of your body including your skin. Certain foods are better than others at helping your skin stay clear, younger, and healthier. There is a book I love and recommend all the time titled, SuperFoods by Steven G. Pratt, M.D. and Kathy Matthews. It goes through an entire list of foods that are really good for you in every way. Some super foods for your skin include, strawberries, oranges and other citrus, red peppers and broccoli for their high levels of vitamin C. This essential element helps skin build collagen for support. Wild salmon, walnuts and omega-3 fortified eggs all fight the effects of free radical damage in the skin. It’s the omega-3 fatty acid in these foods that is the hero. Omega-3 has been shown to reduce inflammation caused by stress and sun damage. When you want to eat veggies opt for lots of color. Dark orange foods like sweet potatoes and squash, leafy deep greens like spinach and any red vegetable will be packed with vitamin A, in my opinion the super star performer when it comes to the skin. Vitamin A regulates cell production and cell turn over, helping skin do what it does best. Having new skin cells to replace old ones is the very core of what our skin function is all about, cell turn over creates smooth fresh new skin. Get hooked on nuts too. Almonds are one of the best nuts as are sunflower seeds because they are full of vitamin E. This vitamin gets a lot of attention because of its healing properties. This antioxidant protects the skin from UV damage and helps the skin stay hydrated. If you suffer with some acne issues try and eat a diet that is low in sugar, lower in carbohydrates. These foods keep your insulin levels steady and new research shows that spikes in insulin and sugar levels cause the hormone androgen to elevate and cause breakouts. Lastly don’t forget the hardest working element in our diet, water. Skin needs water just like the rest of your body. Skin cells are mostly water. Six to eight glasses a day should do it. It may be tempting to read this and think you just need to supplement by taking individual vitamins daily. Not true. It’s the whole foods that are so good for you and your skin.

Using Bar Soaps

Q. I always use bar soap and my friend tells me I am damaging my skin. Is that true, is bar soap damaging to skin?

A. Not as a general rule. Bar soap has really gotten an undeserved bad reputation. Most bar soaps are not bad. Spa Magazine’s January edition quotes Jennifer Reichel, M.D., director of Pacific Dermatology and Cosmetic Center, as saying, “Some bar soaps can be very gentle and moisturizing and do not necessarily trap oils and chemicals.” The soaps that are best to avoid are the ones that contain synthetic detergents and high amounts of perfume. These can be over drying and the chemicals can be detrimental to your skin. Organic soaps and soaps with emollients like coconut oil, she butter or olive oil can be very good for your skin. Your question was if bar soap was damaging. You did not ask if bar soap is the best choice of cleaner for your skin. In truth, your friend may be aware of the fact that while not damaging, there could be cleansing solutions that are better choices for you. If you have any skin care concerns such as, anti-aging, acne, or dryness the skincare industry is full of real effective cleansers that can target these problems better than the simple bar of soap. Your face especially may benefit from targeted higher end cleansers. That said, many soaps in bar and pump formulas are effective, safe and many times beneficial in cleansing your skin.

Lighten Up Too Much Tanner

Q. I recently bought a self tanner at the grocery store and I got too much tanner on my feet and knees. Do you have a suggestion for lightening this area?

A. Self tanners are a great option to the tanning bed and outdoor sun. They are much better for your skin, but can be tricky to do yourself. If at all possible I suggest you get your sunless tanning in a salon or spa with a spray tanning professional. It will cost a little more but the results will be worth it. To help fade the over-tanned areas of your skin the best solution is exfoliation. In my experience the very best product to exfoliate with in order to lighten your skin is simple household baking soda. Make a mixture of half a cup of water to one cup of baking soda. Apply the mixture to your over tan areas and let it stay on for a few minutes, about 3 or 4. After you have allowed the mix to stay on for a short while begin to exfoliate using your fingers or a soft sponge. Move in circular motions, do not scrub hard or use too much pressure. You indicate the areas of over tan are your feet and knees. These body parts can stand a firmer scrub and a stronger amount of pressure than some other parts. If the over tan is on your face you should use very mild pressure but repeat the process washing off the baking soda between tries. This method works quite well and I think you will be surprised at the amount of tan you’ll loose. Don’t let this problem keep you from using sunless tanning as an alternative to the tanning bed or real sun. It takes practice to get the technique right. Try putting lotion or petroleum jelly on your knees, feet, and between your fingers to keep from getting too much tanning product on these areas. Be sure to wash your hands well after applying the tanning agent. You should also consider my advice and go to a spa that offers spray tanning by a professional.

Q. What are you seeing as the hottest ways to do hair for the prom or a wedding? I am in both in May.

A. According to trade magazines here are the latest trends in formal hair:
The braid is all the rage this year for everything from weddings and proms to beach wear. There are loads of variations on the braid with fun styles and options. For a formal looking braid, tease the top to give yourself some height then pull your hair to the side like you were going for a side pony and make your braid. The hottest formal look for braids is the fishbone braid; somewhat flat and similar to a fishbone neck chain. A professional stylist should be able to give this to you. A popular variation on this theme is the side pony. This look gets sleek if you smooth over your bangs to the side and add loose, not tight, curls in the long free hair. Be sure to tease and get height on top. For a more casual look the half up style is still popular this year. Pull just the top of your hair up and pin it back then curl the back in soft loose curls. The classic up-do bun is never out of style either. There is always some trendy popular version of this style and the classic ballerina bun will never be out, especially for brides. To get the most current look for this classic try a side part. If you have straight bangs, leave them down. Get the teased up volume for the top and then work the back into any version of a bun you want. If you can afford a professional stylist you will not regret it. You can then relax and let an expert do your hair. Always remember that the most important part of any event is that you are comfortable. Choose a hairstyle that you feel good in and then relax and have fun!

Looking Younger With White Teeth

Q. Does getting your teeth whitened really make you look younger?

A. Absolutely. Age affects more than just your skin. Age itself can yellow or dull your teeth but years of lifestyle choices will show on your teeth as well. Teeth reflect years of coffee and tea drinking, smoking, and eating teeth staining foods. To make it even more poignant young people are currently on a “teeth whitening craze”. Unlike in years past, young people can get teeth whitening gels, toothpastes and treatments at any grocery store. They are also more and more often opting for professional teeth whitening under an LED light. This craze works to contrast the super white teeth of a younger generation against the duller teeth of the older crowd; making the mature group appear not only older but also out of the loop. White teeth also look fresh and clean and attractive, lending a youthful appeal to your smile. The good thing is that in the scope of anti-aging treatments, teeth whitening is one of the most affordable. The systems you buy at the super market are effective but results will be slower than the professional LED systems. Look around for places that offer professional teeth whitening many spas and salons offer the light and gel process at an affordable price. Teeth whitening is a great way to add a boost of confidence as well. It’s not risky and it’s not expensive, and it’s not very time consuming so I say, go for it. You might even smile more and that is always a good thing.

Hwo to correctly apply lipstick

Q. I always wear my lipstick down flat and then I think it does not go on as well. Is there a correct way to apply your lipstick from a lipstick tube?




A. I once went to a wedding shower where we all played a game about how we wore down our lipstick tubes. In the game, the way you wore down your tube told something about your personality, in reality all it tells is how you apply your lipstick. I researched your question and found that the Covergirl division of Procter and Gamble had suggestions for how to apply and how to not apply your lip color. According to Covergirl, if your lipstick ends up being flat as a pancake on top it means you most likely apply your color to your lower lip first, then rub your lips together to get the color on the top lips. If you are without a mirror this is a safe way to put on your lip color but it will almost always leave your outer mouth corners bare. If on the other hand your tube ends up with a sharp point you most likely are pressing the lipstick between your lips and rubbing it back and forth. This will make your lip color uneven and it will make your expensive lipstick more likely to break. The perfect way to apply your lip color from a tube of lipstick is to apply color to both your top and bottom lips evenly. If you do this your lipstick should maintain the slightly pyramid shape it starts with when it’s new, your color will go on your entire mouth and be even and you will not damage your tube. For the very best lip coverage, apply lipliner to a relaxed mouth, then open your mouth slightly and say “Oh” apply your lipstick evenly to top and bottom lips and with your mouth in the “Oh” pattern you’ll be able to reach the entire lip surface. I hope this helps because I am so upset when I end up breaking a perfect tube of lipstick it’s worse than breaking a nail!

Q. I am getting older, 43, and don’t know what to do with my hair. It’s showing some grey, and it’s boring. I don’t want to go really short either. What do you suggest?




A. The New York Times Bestseller, “How Not To Look Old”, by Charla Krupp lists some very specific strategies for staying young and hip. The book makes suggestions for hair that I have found to be valuable. Charla states that nothing ages you like grey hair, too-short bangs, too-long hair parted down the middle, helmet head hair, hair that is too high, a severe up-do, or visibly thinning hair. She goes on to claim that once you reach a certain age, you look better with bangs. I have found this to be the case unless you have very curly hair or cowlicks in the front hair line. Bangs accentuate your best features and camouflage negative ones like a large forehead, wrinkles on the forehead, or a receding hairline. Soft fringe (the term in the beauty biz for bangs), can draw attention to your eyes and away from your jaw line which may be starting to show some signs of age. It may seem like a simple thing to cut bangs but it’s really best left to a professional stylist. A good stylist can assure you the correct length of bangs, the right angle and can make sure your hair is balanced. The popularity of bangs peak and valley but they never go out of style and they almost always make you look younger. Your question seemed to suggest that you are thinking about color for your hair as well. Going back to the Charla Krupp philosophy she states that in order to look young, fresh, and vibrant color your hair two shades lighter than your natural color and around your face 3 or 4 shades lighter. She calls hair highlights the makeup you never take off. Ms. Krupp claims that hair color is fashion and that the current fashion trend is shiny, expensive color. She goes on to claim that a great hair color is a status symbol, like a designer hand bag. She calls hair color and investment and suggests that you protect it with the proper shampoos and conditioner. I agree with her. As we age we all become a little more high maintenance. Investing in our self keeps you in the game both at work and in your personal life. Being 43 is a great age, you are still young and vibrant plus you are most likely wise from your life experiences. Your appearance should be as full of life as you are, but don’t get too caught up in the trap of younger is always better. Be the best you can be and embrace the strength and power that only comes with the richness of having lived a while.

Q. I am 23 and am just starting to grow a goatee. My girlfriend says I would look better in a full beard. How do you suggest men decide what type of beard to wear?




A. In the female dominated world of personal style facial hair is one option that is exclusively masculine. While the classic clean shaven face will always be in style, it is very trendy right now to have facial hair of one type or another. A few considerations before you choose what to do with your whiskers. You are 23, how well does your facial hair grow? If it’s sparse or choppy you could end up looking like Shaggy from Scooby Do fame, not so attractive. Other considerations are your facial shape, and your skills with the razor or the trimmers. The five o’clock shadow, about a day’s growth of facial hair, is a fun popular look with the 20 and 30 something crowd. It’s great because you can wear it on a weekend or to a party, look hip and masculine, but shave it off easily for work on Monday. While this look is sexy and cool on younger men, it tends to look un-kept or sloppy on the older man, with the possible exception of George Clooney. The full beard and mustache is great for men with a slightly full face. You can be creative in how you trim the sides and this look is also good for the man with some acne scars or other facial imperfections to hide. Be sure to keep it trim and neat at the bottom edges if you want to stay stylish. Stats show that most women do not like the full beard if it’s bushy, sloppy or too long. Right now, the most popular facial hair trend for young men is the goatee. Brad Pitt may have helped make this look so popular but it is by far the most worn at the moment. As with the full beard, be sure you keep the bottom edges clean and neat. If your beard is full you may also need to keep the trimmer handy to assure your goatee is not too bushy. Here’s the fun part about being a man and growing your facial hair. You can try out lots of looks and be creative. Unlike growing out your hair for a new hair style, your beard grows quickly and you can change it up often. Have fun with it. Try a few styles and you can decide what looks great on you.

Q, Is there any basic rules about what blush to buy? My sister has very light skin and I think she wears her blush too dark. I have darker skin and that same blush looks ok on me. I know it’s hard to say for sure without seeing someone but do you have a basic guide we can follow?




A. Natural cheek tones, like skin tones vary from person to person. I could write a whole chapter on how to use the color wheel, the base color in your complexion, the amount of red or yellow you have in your skin, etc… The best solution is to visit a salon or spa with a makeup artist. Bring your makeup bag in with you. Have the specialist go over your skin, give you a makeover with their product and then have them do a comparison and evaluation of your entire makeup bag. If a color is wrong for you, give it away or throw it away. Don’t wear what does not look great on you. That is my best advice to anyone interested in updating their makeup or their appearance. Now to really answer your question, I can give you some very basic guidelines. Soft pink color tones are ideal for light skinned people. Peach tones tend to be the best for medium skin tones and that would be the largest majority of people. Peach toned blushes are the most recommended. Darker skinned women look best in plum or grape based shades. Another way to blush is a bronzer. All skin tones will look good in a version of a bronzer. Lighter bronzer tones for lighter skin, medium bronze for most of us, and darker bronzes for darker skin. The reason bronzers tend to be more universal is that they more closely match the way our skin darkens naturally in the sun. My advice to anyone who plans on spending money on makeup is always to try before you buy. Go someplace, I advise a spa or salon, and have someone help you find the shades that work best on you. Then buy only what you think looks great.

Q. I have dark circles under my eyes. No matter how much sleep I get they never go away. What do you suggest?




A. I get this question a lot because the problem is a common one. It’s a problem with many possible causes. I just had a client in my facial room this weekend asking me about her dark circles. I gave her the advice I am going to give to you. The leading causes for dark under eye circles are lack of quality sleep, allergies and heredity. You can usually correct the first two but you are stuck with the DNA you inherit. Sleep deprivation is a real problem; often not taken seriously enough but one that is the source of many health complications. You indicated to me that the circles remain no matter how much sleep you get, so this may not be your issue. On the other hand, it’s the quality of sleep you are getting that is as important as the number of hours you spend in bed. Things like alcohol use, some medications or drugs, sleep apnea or even menopausal symptoms can impact the quality of sleep. When sleep quality is poor your skin can become pale and circulation is reduced. This alone will make the dark circles more pronounced and visible. Allergies are a major cause of under eye darkness. If you can have a doctor test you for allergies and remove the allergen, your dark circle problem should go away. Your DNA is another matter entirely. You can’t change that. No matter what the source of your dark circles here are some treatments that work. Before going to bed soften some caffeinated tea bags (not herbal or decaf) in hot water, put them into zip bags and store in the fridge. In the morning put the cold tea bags over your eyes and put a pillow or towel under your neck. Let the top of your head fall down a little with your neck supported and the bags on your eyes. The combination of gravity and tannin (an ingredient in tea) mixed with the cooling bags will rid you of both the dark circles and any puffiness. You’ll need to leave them on about 10 – 15 mins. You can do this trick right before you go out for the evening and your eyes will look fresh and circle free. Another treatment many find successful is Vitamin K and Retinol. These can be found in many under eye creams. Choose creams that have high contents of both the K and Retinol. Other things that help are plenty of water, good fresh fruits and veggies in your diet, limiting your salt intake and not smoking. If in the end you still have some darkness remaining, stop in to a spa and have a professional makeup lesson. You’ll be amazed at what the correct cover up can do.

Q. What’s the deal with Peptides I read about them in a magazine, it sounded like they are the next Big Thing.




A. Yes, peptides are the next big thing. They are also the real deal! Peptides are small protein molecules that can work with skin’s collagen and elastin to repair DNA damage from normal aging and from sun damage. They work in connection with skin’s natural repair systems. In the February issue of DaySpa magazine a column by skin specialist Andrea Moret explains the workings of peptides as acting messengers transporting data to skin cells and sending signals to ensure proper nourishment and repair. When collagen is lacking the peptides stimulate its creation. If the skin’s elastin (what helps keep skin firm and wrinkle free) is damaged peptides send the message to repair and restore elasticity to the skin. Peptides success is backed by real clinical evidence. Until recently the results like can be achieved with peptides were only found in plastic surgery or injectables. Unlike these options, peptides cause no skin irritation, scars or down time. They actually restore the skin and are good for your skin. The really exciting news about peptides is that they not only treat damaged skin they actually can prevent future damage! They can slow down the damage done by the normal aging process so in effect they can slow down the results of aging on your skin!!! Peptides come in a variety of forms. The best will cost you some money but the results will be real. The evidence of what peptides are doing for skin means they will be around for awhile, they are not a fad. Prices will come down as demand goes up. In my opinion you do get what you pay for. If you’ve always wished for a way to erase some of the age on your skin and slow down the aging process significantly, peptides are your wish come true! See a skin specialist for the correct peptide product for your skin.

Q. I tried to convince my husband that a massage would be great for him. I’d love to buy one for Valentine’s Day, but he is nervous about getting it. What do you suggest?




A. I suggest you buy a gift certificate for a “Couple’s Massage” and give it to him for Valentine’s Day. Couple’s Massage is one of the most popular services going at my spa and at spa’s around the country. The two of you will be massaged in the same room at the same time by two different therapists. Our couple’s room is large with a couple’s shower right in the suite. We light candles and the atmosphere is romantic. Most couple’s suites are large and comfortable. The couple’s version is a great way for you to introduce your husband to massage. He will feel less apprehensive and self conscious with you in the room with him. Once he enjoys a professional therapeutic massage he will be hooked and getting him to go alone won’t be a problem. The added benefit of giving him a gift certificate for this service is you are getting a treat as well. He will appreciate the romantic nature of the gift, even if he does not know it right away, he is going to enjoy the relaxing experience and you are going to have a new gifting option for him in the future. I suggest the gift card option. You can give it on Valentine’s Day but you’ll be able to schedule the massage when it works best for both of you. Enjoy.

Q. I have been diagnosed with rosacea but don’t want to use the antibiotic treatments suggested by my doctor. Can a spa treatment help?




A Prescription strength medicines and creams can have side effects and long term use can cause tolerance problems. That said, I would never second guess your medical professional and I suggest you run my advice by your doctor before taking it. Rosacea is a chronic skin condition resulting from skin inflammation. It shows up as redness or flushing and can in advanced stages involve swelling, and skin eruptions that look like acne. Rosacea is often mis-diagnosed and treating it like acne can make the condition worse. This skin condition is genetic in nature but is also triggered by lifestyle and diet. Your first step in controlling your condition is knowledge. You should learn everything you can about Rosacea and begin to keep a journal of what triggers your problems. Some common culprits are sun, stress, alcoholic beverages, spicy foods, and hot liquids. A regular routine of facials from a skilled esthetician (skin therapist), proper home care and changes in your diet and life style can make a huge impact. Rosacea is basically a skin inflammation problem so products like vitamins C and K are helpful. In the treatment room advance treatments using aloe vera, chamomile and salicylic acid can be beneficial. Try the non medication approach with the help of a skin professional who understands your condition. If you don’t get success, you can try the medical approach to jump start healing and then with the help of your doctor begin to combine the two methods. Again, my advice is never a substitute for your doctor’s care. Take my advice to your medial professional and make the decision that is best for you.

Q. I want to cut my hair short but I am worried about the right cut for my face. Do you have a suggestion for how to be sure I don’t mess up and get a cut that’s totally wrong?



A. Your question seems to be about choosing a hair cut that will fit your face type. The first step is determining your face shape. The best advice I have found on how to really get this right was in Hairdo magazine. They suggest you look at your face in a mirror with you hair behind your ears or pinned back then trace your face on the mirror with a lipstick. Look at the traced shape and match it to one of the basic face shapes; oval, oblong, square, heart shaped, pear shaped or round. No one’s face is a perfect match so choose the shape that best fits your face. With your face shape in mind you can follow my suggestions for cuts. The balanced oval face works with any cut or style and is the face shape that can handle super short hair cuts. If you lay a perfect circle over your lipstick drawn face and you have space at the top and bottom of the circle then you have an oblong face. It will look best with styles that have full layers at the sides and you should avoid styles that have a high crown. A square face is wider than it is long and looks great with styles that extend below the chin. A heart shaped face is similar to a square face but with a wider forehead and more narrow chin. Like the square face, styles that extend below the chin are best. This face looks great with some volume at the sides. The below the chin flip is a perfect style for this face. The pear shaped face is a reverse of the heart shape with the wide portion at the bottom of the face. Wear a style that will open up the face, showing your forehead. A short style that spikes upward is perfect. The round face should avoid the current popular look of heavy bangs or fringe as it’s called in the industry. If you want this popular look and have a round face, opt for softer wispy bangs. Try to go for a style that covers your ear line. Curls and full layers look good on round faces. It’s the start of a new year and a great time to make some changes. Everyone is starting new exercise plans and diets but one of the quickest ways to give yourself a new look and a lift in spirit is to change your hair. In one short salon visit you can remake yourself. Happy New Year.